So What's Been Happening
Originally Posted April 14, 2018
It's been a while since we shared an update. Life has been busy, but lately, we’ve been hesitant to share much information because we’re just not sure how much our situation might change. So I’ll do my best to explain…
At the beginning of March, around the time of our last update, we started the matching process and 4 days later we were matched (mostly thanks to our awesome and super-fast case manager). Faster than we ever expected, some families spend months and months waiting for a child to match with but, we both felt a connection with one of the kids right away.
When we matched, I was bursting with excitement and couldn’t wait to share the awesome news and pictures; adorable, adorable pictures!! When our case manager confirmed our match, at the bottom of her email there was a note that stated things could still fall through with the match in the coming weeks. Our agency discourages families from sharing information about their match with friends or family until later in the process. In addition to being a long and onerous process, it can be unpredictable. We also received a two-page list of documentation needed to start our dossier, which will go to India, and an approximate timeline for the next steps of the process.
After getting all this news we felt a bit deflated and discouraged. How can I not share about the child that I can’t wait to meet and can’t stop thinking about? And what a struggle is it going to be to focus on this next list of stuff that we need to gather? And haven’t we already been through all this paperwork before? It was like the wind was let out of our sails. But… we regrouped and refocused because we have to keep going if we want to bring our child home. We are working on putting together our dossier to send to India. We are also waiting for the orphanage to send our child’s original medical file in the mail so we can sign off on it. We’re finding it takes a very long time for that information to get from India to our house. Waiting is the worst; it has never been my forte, and there will be many more months of it.
So to sum it up, we are matched with our child and can’t wait to share more about them with all of you. But we don’t have much information to share just yet. Things might not work out how we are planning for now; in which case we will of course be devastated. In the meantime we are hoping for the best, trying to stay optimistic as we go through this crazy, long process, and praying for our child and their caregivers at the orphanage.
